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Balance your energy to avoid burnout

Do you ever feel like you’re trying to keep a bunch of plates spinning at once? Well, one of the biggest plates to keep steady is your energy level. In other words, you need to balance your energy.

Buddha's posture showing how to balance your energy

Check out Buddha’s pose — He has got this hand near the chest, reminding us to keep our energy balanced. Our energy’s all over the place during the day, right? Happy moments lift us up, while tough times can bring us down. It’s like being on a rollercoaster!

But here’s the thing: it’s not just about the ups and downs—it’s about how much they swing. If it swings too much, we waste energy and feel off-kilter. The goal? Keep it within a small range and bounce back quick. And that’s where learning the skill of personal energy management helps.

How we balance our energy daily

Let’s dive deeper into this. Picture your day. You wake up feeling refreshed, ready to take on the world—that’s your energy swinging up. But then, you spill your coffee, get stuck in traffic, or have a tough conversation at work. Suddenly, you’re feeling drained and stressed—that’s the swing down in energy levels.

Now, a little swing here and there is normal. It’s part of being human. But when those swings are too extreme and take forever to balance out, that’s when it becomes a problem. Imagine a pendulum swinging wildly, never finding its center. That’s what happens when our energy is all over the place.

How do we keep our energy in balance?

Well, it starts with awareness. Pay attention to how you’re feeling throughout the day. Notice what situations cause your energy to spike or dip. Maybe it’s a certain person, task, or thought pattern that throws you off balance.

Once you’re aware of these triggers, you can start to manage them better. Maybe you take a few deep breaths when you feel yourself getting stressed. Or you take a short walk to clear your head when you’re feeling overwhelmed. It’s about finding what works for you and making it a habit.

Let’s talk about real-life situations where energy balance is crucial. Take being a parent, for instance. It’s one of the most rewarding yet challenging roles out there. You want to be there for your kids, support them, and help them grow. But if you’re constantly in “mom mode,” never taking time for yourself, you’ll eventually burn out.

Finding that balance between being there for your kids and taking care of yourself is key. It’s like the oxygen mask on an airplane—you have to put yours on first before you can help others. So, don’t feel guilty about taking some “me time” every now and then. It’s essential for your well-being and ultimately benefits your family too.

Another area where energy balance is crucial is in helping others. It’s a wonderful thing to lend a hand and support those in need. But if you’re constantly saying yes to every request and spreading yourself too thin, you’ll end up exhausted and resentful.

Learning to set boundaries and prioritize your own needs is essential. It’s okay to say no sometimes, or to ask for help when you need it. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking care of yourself allows you to show up fully for others.

And let’s not forget about our physical bodies—they’re like a mirror reflecting our inner state. Ever notice how your posture changes when you’re feeling confident versus when you’re anxious? Our bodies hold onto stress and tension, affecting our energy levels.

That’s why practices like yoga, meditation, and regular exercise are so important. They help release built-up tension, restore balance, and recharge our energy reserves. Plus, they’re great for overall health and well-being.

But here’s the thing about balance—it’s not a one-and-done deal. It’s a constant process of checking in with yourself, making adjustments, and course-correcting as needed. Some days, you’ll feel like you’ve got it all figured out. Other days, you’ll stumble and fall. And that’s okay.

The key is to keep going, keep striving for that balance, even when it feels like an uphill battle. Because every step you take towards balance brings you closer to a life filled with joy, fulfillment, and inner peace. And isn’t that what we’re all striving for?

So, embrace the journey, my friend. Embrace the highs and the lows, the twists and the turns. And remember, you’re not alone. We’re all in this together, figuring it out as we go. So, let’s keep those plates spinning, one day at a time.

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5 powerful ways to manage clutter

I don’t know how to manage clutter at home. Every time I try to do it, I feel overwhelmed and exhausted by the sheer volume of stuff that needs to be tackled, which makes the whole process very slow. It takes many, many rounds over months sometimes. Is this exhaustion normal? Does energy get depleted during the process of decluttering?

Padma Sharma, Gurugram

What is clutter? It’s the tendency to hold on to energy and it stems from a deep feeling of insecurity. Therefore, it becomes vital to manage clutter so that your energy levels remain high. Clutter is one of the biggest energy blocks.

How to manage clutter

Clutter is stagnant energy, and when you are decluttering, you are dealing with a negative charge. Hence, if you have ensured a steady supply of positive energy to counter that negative charge, there is every chance that you will feel depleted when trying to manage clutter at home. And clutter is not just physical clutter. You also process mental, emotional, spiritual, and digital clutter. A combination of all this increases the negative charge. And negative energy is heavy, overbearing, and induces lethargy. That’s why any attempt to manage clutter affects our mood quickly.

If you notice, the clutter inevitably returns after a fortnight or so despite spending hours trying to declutter and manage clutter in all your storage spaces. Familiar? Well, that’s because clutter is not just a habit: it’s a subconscious program that instructs you to hoard, hold back, and not let go.

As a result, even if you spend hours trying to manage clutter, you will not be able to overcome your hoarding habit unless you change that inner program. That process takes anywhere between 21 to 90 days.

Check out my workshop, ‘The Clutter Clinic‘ on how you can achieve that.

To clear negative charges, you need to equip yourself with some additional doses of positive charges. Remember, depending on the state and heaviness of the clutter, it is likely to drain you. You can counter it by simultaneously filling yourself with positive energy which makes the process of managing energy easier.

5 powerful tips to manage clutter

Step 1: When you sit down to declutter, don’t do it all at once. Break it down into parts. For example, if it’s a cupboard that you are decluttering, you can do two shelves at a time.

Step 2: Give yourself a timeframe to complete that part. For instance, gauge how much time it will take to manage the clutter in that storage space. By allotting a time for the task, you are making it finite. This will ensure your energy is not wasted.

Step 3: Next, put on music. Let the sun come in. Sunlight is a source of positive energy and allowing it to fill the room, will help you counter the negative energy that you will encounter when you try to manage your clutter.

Step 4: Spray the room with some freshener. Or light up some essential oils in a dispenser.

Step 5: Put on music. The sound vibrations will keep the energy in the room in a state of motion. This, again, will beat the heavy negative energy that will have inevitably pull the energy down.

All these are the positive charges I spoke about. This will act as a support system and strengthen your aura when you manage your clutter. When you do this, the whole process will go smoothly without you getting drained. Clutter is energy and needs to be managed for you to live well.

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Try this powerful creative visualisation

I want to suggest to you a very simple healing exercise.. It is based on a very effective technique called creative visualisation; I do it very often and have seen remarkable results.

Creative Visualisation
Creative visualisation is a powerful exercise

Creative visualisation usually involves using your imagination to form vivid mental images regarding the future you desire. According to New Age author Shakti Gawain, there are generally four stages in the process of creative visualisation. These stages may begin with setting a goal, followed by forming a mental image of the desired outcome, continually returning to that mental image, and then adding positivity to that image. To experience success with creative visualisation, it can be helpful to maintain an open mind, practise meditation, use relaxation techniques, imagine the best that could happen, and embrace the process as a regular practice.

Let’s call this exercise ‘I See the Flame in You’.

Here’s what you can do:

From this very moment, envision yourself igniting an imaginary lamp within the hearts of every individual you encounter, whether they’re family, friends, or strangers. Simply visualize yourself lighting up the diya or lamp within that person’s heart whenever you cross paths with anyone.

Don’t worry about logic; instead, trust your intuition and your ability to creatively visualize.

I’m using the definite article ‘the’ rather than ‘a’ because we all metaphysically possess a diya inside us; what differs is the size, quality, power, and luminescence of the flame.

As you integrate this practice into your daily routine, you’ll begin to intuitively ‘see’ the flame and the diya within each person you meet. You’ll discern individuals with robust flames, those with flickering flames, those with feeble flames, and even those with extinguished flames – where the lamp lies dormant.

If you notice a weak flame, take a moment to ‘check and correct’ the oil and the wick to enhance the brightness of the flame. If the individual is familiar to you, you can assess the condition of their lamp daily and envision it in a healthy state.

Remember, this is a creative visualization exercise, so feel free to let your imagination run wild.

Over time, you’ll have illuminated thousands upon thousands of flames within countless hearts. Observe any shifts in the individuals whose hearts you’ve ignited, whether they’re acquaintances or strangers. You’ll likely notice a difference. Feel free to share your experiences here.

As you continue this practice, you’ll not only enhance the positivity and light within others but also within yourself. The act of visualizing yourself spreading warmth and brightness to those around you can have a profound impact on your own well-being. Notice how your interactions with others become more meaningful and fulfilling as you cultivate this practice. Embrace the power you hold to bring light into the lives of those around you, and watch as the world around you begins to reflect that light back to you.

Creative visualisation is closely connected with Personal Energy Management. When you get trained in that subject, you will be able to increase your intuition levels. This training empowers you to tap into your intuition more effectively, allowing you to access deeper insights and make more informed decisions in various aspects of your life.

By honing your skills in creative visualisation and personal energy management, you can unlock new levels of intuition that enable you to navigate life’s challenges with greater clarity and confidence. As you become more attuned to your inner guidance, you’ll find yourself making choices that align more closely with your authentic self and lead to greater fulfilment and success.

Moreover, integrating creative visualisation techniques with personal energy management practices can amplify the effectiveness of both approaches. Visualising positive outcomes while simultaneously managing your energy levels can create a powerful synergy that propels you towards your goals and aspirations.

Through dedicated practice and training in creative visualisation and personal energy management, you’ll not only expand your intuitive abilities but also cultivate a deeper connection with yourself and the world around you. This enhanced intuition becomes a valuable tool for navigating the complexities of life and unlocking your full potential.

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How to manage clutter

How big is your energy bucket?

The term ‘energy bucket’ might be new to you, but it’s pretty straightforward once you grasp it. Picture this: You’re watching a food review video, captivated by the spread of dishes displayed before the host. Yet, as you express your excitement to a friend or family member, they shake their head, hesitant to dine at such a place due to the overwhelming variety. This discrepancy in reactions sheds light on a fundamental truth about human nature: we all have unique capacities when it comes to handling choices and stimuli. This is precisely what I refer to as our energy bucket.

Recently, I found myself engrossed in a YouTube binge when I stumbled upon a video featuring a restaurant named Maharaja Bhog. The screen overflowed with culinary delights, each dish more tantalising than the last. However, as the host eagerly devoured every item on the menu, a family member sitting beside me shook her head in disbelief. “No way would I go there and eat,” she remarked. “It’s just too much khana.”

In that moment, it dawned on me how both perspectives were entirely valid. While some may relish the plethora of options before them, others might feel overwhelmed by the sheer abundance. And therein lies the crux of the matter: understanding and honouring our individual capacities.

Know your energy bucket

Consider, for instance, the concept of multitasking versus single-tasking. Are you someone who thrives on juggling multiple tasks at once, effortlessly switching between projects? Or do you prefer to channel your energy into one task at a time, immersing yourself until completion?

The same principle applies to everyday scenarios, such as shopping for clothes or groceries. Do you enjoy browsing through countless options, exploring every aisle of a supermarket in search of the perfect item? Or do you favour a more streamlined approach, seeking out a curated selection or placing a straightforward order with your trusted local vendor?

At its core, this is a reflection of our individual makeup—our unique blend of personality traits, cognitive abilities, and energy levels. Just like a computer has its RAM capacity and finite processing power, each of us has our own “energy bucket,” dictating how much stimulation we can handle before reaching a point of overwhelm.

Understanding our personal thresholds for sensory input and decision-making is crucial. It enables us to navigate the world with greater ease and self-awareness. Recognising when we’re nearing our limits and taking steps to mitigate overwhelm can prevent burnout, ensuring that we operate at our optimal level of functioning.

So, the next time you’re confronted with a multitude of choices—at a restaurant, store, or in your daily tasks—pause to consider your energy capacity. Embrace the approach that resonates most with your unique makeup, whether it’s diving headfirst into a sea of options or adopting a more measured, deliberate strategy. By honouring your individuality and understanding your limits, you’ll pave the way for a more fulfilling and balanced existence.

As you delve deeper into the concept of the energy bucket, you’ll uncover its profound implications for personal growth and well-being. By consciously managing your energy levels and respecting your boundaries, you’ll cultivate a greater sense of harmony and resilience in your life. Moreover, you’ll develop a deeper appreciation for the diverse ways in which people navigate the world around them, fostering empathy and understanding in your interactions with others.

Incorporating mindfulness practices, such as meditation and self-reflection, can further enhance your ability to manage your energy effectively. By cultivating present-moment awareness and tuning into your inner guidance, you’ll gain valuable insights into your energy levels and how they fluctuate throughout the day. This heightened self-awareness empowers you to make conscious choices that support your overall well-being and align with your values and priorities.

Ultimately, the concept of the energy bucket serves as a powerful reminder to honour and nurture our inner resources. By recognising our unique capacities and respecting our limits, we can lead more fulfilling and balanced lives, grounded in authenticity and self-care. So, take a moment to reflect on your energy bucket and how you can best support yourself in harnessing its potential for growth and transformation.

You will understand how to evaluate your energy bucket in my Personal Energy Management programme, where you will learn about your frequency, wavelength and vibrations. Check it out here.

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Follow this grounding routine

In the realm of wellness advice, we often encounter suggestions for a perfect morning routine. It typically involves meditation, exercise, and a brisk walk to kickstart the day on a healthy note. And while these activities undoubtedly offer physiological benefits, adhering to them every morning can be a daunting task, especially when battling with feelings of laziness or lethargy.

But what if there were a simpler way to attain at least half of those benefits, even on the laziest of mornings? Allow me to share a revelation I stumbled upon—an approach rooted in energy principles that has transformed my mornings and, I believe, can transform yours too.

Picture this: during sleep, we exist in the realm of air and space elements—drifting through dreams, traversing different brainwave states (beta, theta, delta), perhaps even engaging in a bit of time travel within the depths of our subconscious. As we awaken, particularly after a restless night, we find ourselves in need of grounding.

Enter the earth element—the grounding force that reconnects us to the present moment and revitalizes our senses. While walking and exercising are commonly associated with earth element activities, there are simpler ways to tap into this grounding energy, even within the confines of our homes.

If the idea of a morning jog or yoga session feels overwhelming, fear not. Instead, engage in what I like to call “earth element jobs.” These tasks involve physical movement and a connection to the tangible world around us. Consider tidying up your living space, rearranging furniture, or tending to indoor plants with gentle care. Even the simple act of sweeping the floors (known as ‘jhaadu’ in some cultures) can serve as a potent grounding exercise.

Allocate just 20 to 30 minutes to these earth-centric activities, and observe the transformative effect they have on your mood and energy levels. You’ll find that the earth readily absorbs the excess ‘air’—the scattered thoughts, residual grogginess, and dreamy remnants of sleep—leaving you feeling more centered, focused, and ready to tackle the day ahead.

In essence, by anchoring ourselves in the earth element upon waking, we bridge the gap between the ethereal realm of dreams and the grounded reality of waking life. It’s a simple yet profound practice—one that honors the interconnectedness of mind, body, and environment.

So, the next time you find yourself dreading the prospect of a rigorous morning routine, remember: you can still reap the benefits of grounding and revitalization through simple earth element tasks. Embrace the energy of the earth beneath your feet, and let it guide you towards a morning of clarity, vitality, and inner balance.

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4 kids, 24 questions

I just completed a 5-day workshop titled Wonder Why for 4 children aged 8–13 years. It was aimed at answering their myriad questions about the hows and whys of culture, spirituality, religion, faith, personal energy, superstitions, practices, rituals, et al. It was a trial session for me to see what I may be getting into if I choose to do this workshop on a sustained basis to basically help parents who feel clueless when their kids ask them questions related to these subjects.

Not that I have the answers, but given the three decades I have spent understanding this space, I feel I can probably throw more light on explaining common ‘unfathomable’ and ‘gosh-why-do-we-do-that’ rituals and practices through the prism of science. In fact, when I started doing PEM workshops in 2007, I started it as a workshop for 16- to 25-year olds, and then broad-based it later.

So, before starting my workshop with my four participants, I had asked them to list down whatever questions they had on the subject and title it ‘My Questions to the Universe’. My commitment to their parents was that I would answer a minimum of 25 questions. Here are some of the questions they sent me:

  • What power does God have over us?
  • How did God get magical powers, and who made them?
  • Why are there so many variations of God?
  • Do heaven and hell exist?
  • Is there an afterlife?
  • Is Karma real?
  • What factual data is there to prove God exists?
  • There is no factual justification for spiritual “energy,” chakras, or any other conspiracy fabricated by society. Could you justify any of them?
  • Why do you feel an inclination towards the existence of God?
  • Have you ever directly experienced any phenomena that cannot be explicitly explained by the laws of physics?
  • What are gut feelings? Where do they come from, and should we listen to them?
    Why are there only 2 pre-existing genders?
  • Why are some people so uncomfortable with the existence of homosexuality and, in general, LGBTQ+?
  • What happens after you die? Where do you go? Is there an afterlife?
  • Why are most people right handed and not left handed?
  • How do senses/thoughts/moods come into our brains?
  • Who am I?
  • If your soul travels from body to body after death, then isn’t (my name) just a name I have been given to this body?
  • Is it my brain that’s controlling me or my soul?
  • Why is our body able to function at the capacity that it is?
  • Why can’t there be a different hormonal makeup than there is now in females and males?
  • How did superstitions come into existence?
  • Why do we have different religions?
  • The world began with only 2 people (Adam and Eve) apparently … then are there only 2 families in the world and we all are distantly related?
  • What myths do you follow?

Phew!!!!? My first two sessions were vociferous. I encountered a very high level of dismissive disbelief and it was tough to get through even a wee bit. I was fascinated at their thought process and wondered how do children process the information they are receiving? How and why do some of them become so dismissive of everything?

I did what I knew best: I taught them through PEM. Because everything is energy, and when seen through that lens, it kind of leads you to some answers. Probable answers. I didn’t answer their queries till the last day, when I added a few more commonly-asked questions to the list and sent them a pdf.

When we were saying our byes, one of them told me, “Sir, (thanks to the various PEM exercises we did), we now realise we need to be open to receiving and finding out the answers ourselves, and that there’s much more to know than what we know or are taught.”

That was exactly what I was aiming to achieve. That is, every answer is contextual, open to interpretation, and based on the times when it was first espoused. I don’t know how much this workshop will help them. But for me, this was one tough workshop, but one that was worth it.

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